Platonic Love…

Is there anything like platonic love? No other meaning not even an extramarital one just a man and woman relationship. Numerous quotable quotes are scattered here and there about selfless love, about giving and not expecting back, about holding not clutching. Is it really possible to love someone without any selfish motive? Any relationship be it love or friendship starts with a sense of selfish motive. Motive may not be physical or material it could be emotional or intellectual too but there must be some thing to get along with the person. I have known few people in my life who talk endlessly about pure selfless love. I am tempted to ask them for how long can they love someone who doesn’t love them. Is it possible to give love and care even when the person is not paying any attention or just doesn’t need you?  How long can negligence be neglected that too from a loved one? Few months back we encountered an unexpected situation. Our colleague was in severe depression, her engagement failed. The boy finally bowed to his parents, apologized and backed out. The lady was adamant on clinging to him she said all the passionate things a young, recently in love woman can think of, including “I’ll never marry, I can’t think of any one else”. She did all the weird things, got her horoscope prepared with five different astrologers, signed in on internet for daily horoscopes, kept fasts, visited famous temples. Obviously she wanted an assurance that he’ll come back some day. According to her their love was true. I told her that may be true but it’s over now; at this point she got angry told me to stay out of their affair though she forgot that it was she who wanted me to bear all her rubbish talk. She kept on harping the tune of “platonic love”. From where did she learnt the word “platonic love” that’s a matter of concern because she was not knowing it before she fell in. She has a very poor vocabulary and not a literary person at all. When things became unbearable I asked her will she accept him if he comes back after screening 5 other girls? (Actually I wanted to say “after bedding someone else” but situation was not very encouraging). I received a contemptuous look; then what is this platonic love all about? Why not just love him and let him do what he feels like? She is normal now and comparatively saner. How come possible to give so much and not expect any thing back? And what type of love it is? If it’s not meant to be culminating in a socially acceptable relationship why people want to hold on to it? Is it wise to behave like some supernatural creature when we are well aware that we are just mortals? We are hurt, we have ego, we have self and still we try to be great or shall I say hopelessly illogical. Platonic or otherwise I have no problem but these hyperbolic philosophies spoil my tea time leisure twice a day. Irked by my ridiculous objections they have stopped such sermons at tea time, when and where they do it I don’t care. Tell me if I am wrong and yes I won’t want you all to spoil your hot- tea with rains outside to comment on this. Definitely!!!